My first ever post
I am 41 and live with my two teenage sons, I am now 3 years down the line of escaping from a 17year emotionally abusive relationship. The last year I have tried dating sites. I had 2 kinda on off relationship but both guys came with lots of issues and my anxiety levels about them texting me seeing me were out of control, the second relationship I ended as he was very manipulative and wanted me but didn't want to see me he would text every day to string me along I eventually ended it as I was getting upset at why he would text/call but not want to see me.(ended it in October)
I went back on the dating site and 2 weeks ago I met someone and the spark was instant in those two weeks we have seen each other 4 times, including being out for dinner drinks, called text every day he was even on holiday in Vegas for 6 days out the two weeks and called me and brought me a gift back, in short the way he treats me and speaks to me Iv never had a male partner be so nice and lovely to me!! Then it happened yesterday the anxiety set in, I knew he was working all day but the night before I thought he was a bit distant (gut feeling) I waited on a text from him and had received nothing (feel ridiculous like a teenager) so by 8pm I text asked how his day was he replied it was long and he was shattered I said I'll give u a call he said "I will call you in 5 babe" after 2 hours waiting he never called, I tried to call him but just rang out. My anxiety overcame me and I sent a text saying have I done somthing wrong? Please tell me? If your not interested anymore please have the decency to tell me I really don't want hurt Iv told you that blah blah and went to bed really upset as I thought I'd finally found someone decent, I was awake most of the night racking my brains trying to figure out what I'd done wrong, maybe had too much wine on last date? Maybe shouldn't have stayed over? What have I done now?? In a bid to have some dignity after the texts I sent him etc I deleted his number as a safety measure for me, but I received a text from him this morning: Iv just copied and pasted it:
i babe just really bad day , now heading to work. I really do like you have had issues with ex for last 3 days so head a bit messed up sexy sorry xx
I haven't replied?? Is this a red flag? Do I just give him space? Do I ask him do u want to see me again? I am just anxious it's going to head like the others and I become the chaser and a wreck!! I thinking I will reply I am here if you need someone to talk too??
I now know I have a day of anxiety ahead of me :( thanks in advance
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