Regular poster but NC to avoid being recognised.
Married 5 years, together for 3 before we married. Friends before that to. Have a 4yo and a baby. We have no family who help us - everything falls to Dh and me.
Dh works 4 days a week and sometimes does overtime. I work PT tho currently on maternity leave. I "keep house" my Dh does all the cooking and food shopping. He likes cooking, sees it as a hobby. I hate it so that arrangement works well.
We live in a nice house, in a nice area. Have foreign holidays, eat out regularly etc. On the face of it, and on paper we probably look happy.
But I'm lonely. Dh is not bothered about spending time with me. We haven't had sex since baby conceived last January. Any kisses / cuddles are instigated by me. I fall asleep by myself - I moved back into master bedroom from spare bedroom just before Christmas and he's come to bed once at the same time as me. Once.
I have to ask him to watch tele with me - he "keeps me company" downstairs watching a film or whatever about once a week. Other than that he's on his computer in his study. Sometimes working, sometimes building computer programmes, sometimes doing fuck all probably. He's not into porn so he's not doing anything "dodgy". He just doesn't want my company.
He's a very hands on dad - I can't fault that. But I feel that's not enough. He's very supportive of any issues / problems I have etc. He makes me laugh. He's just not bothered about living side by side with me iykwim. I'm not a needy person - I enjoy my own company.
I've told him how I feel, many times, but nothing changes. I won't leave him as I wouldn't destroy my children's home. I'm not unhappy as such just unsatisfied....
Is this what marriage is? Is this what life will be like? Not really sure why I'm posting tbh. I guess just to get other people's views.....
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