Big time lurker, and love of Mumsnet. I am a man, but feel I am OK to post. Why the lurker? I had very few reference points during my separation and sought feelings even if they were in the majority re OW. Mine, a case of OM and the end of a long relationship that I held dearly. So that was a few years ago and today I find myself good with all that happened post closure (which happened to be the best course of action and all that I wanted) in as much as I can parent my children, continue with my work (ultra understanding firm on these modern day matters) and come through what a lot have managed, albeit fortunate and truth be told not as vile as some have suffered. So my question and point, I am of old school as such, OLD, what is meant by dating, how to determine anything that has a future I find it all very daunting. I believe I understand and read personality well enough, but modern society and what I feel are broken people confuses the hell out of me. Currently dating (and I don't quite get what that means) someone that tells me I mustn't express my feelings as that makes them run, but we continue to connect, have tons in common, but under lying current of arms length. I'm cool with that in a way, but another side of me yearns a relationship, but wonder how that is possible with my setup, and late 40's, what this isn't is when you set out in life in your twenties, early thirties and make a life for your self and your team, so precious is that position. So what is best hoped for this second time around ?
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lurkercomingout · 16/01/2017 00:42
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