ok so I'm a first time poster, have been lurking for a number of weeks and would love some unsolicited advice!
I feel my DH is having an EA and am not sure what to do. I "accidentally" came across his twitter account and have to confess something about a private message caught my eye and wrongly or wrongly I felt compelled to read their message thread. Their messages have a very flirty/sexual banter to them and tbh i'm just not that fucking happy about it
So what caught my eye? Well his admission to her about his love of fingering! I'll give a list of the things that they have said to one another and please feel free to tell me if i'm being batshit crazy!
So it starts off with something along the lines of
Her: oh I was all excited then...fingering is a lost art
Him: it is indeed, I love fingering....it's a sort of gateway to forbidden fruit blah blah blah
Her: it's a lost art
Her: (spouting some shit about walking the dog) so glad I've got my warm undies on but wouldn't want anyone to see me in these but hey they are as comfy as fuck and keep my undercarriage nice and warm
Him: (his reply to this was a tad bit boring BUT did lead on to this little gem) my resistance nearly broken tonight by nice ladies offering me sex (he was on holiday in Thailand.......yes alone.....supposedly work related) he did decline on moral grounds though....lucky me huh!
They also discussed porn hub categories.......one of his faves was new to me! Her well she'd had a long lonely boring summer so was more than familiar with the categories
Him: I'm gagging for proper filth
Her: that would get the wrong juices going......a few in fact
Him: is there such a thing as wrong juices.......ah bless he's struggling to think of one
Anyways it kind of goes on like that some normal conversation some the same as the above. I should mention that they don't live in the same country so no chance of a hook up, it's all online. He doesn't know that I know about the messages.....he would go apeshit if he thought that i'd snooped on him (which I didn't to be fair).
What's tripped this off is that he mentioned her the other day (unaware that I know all about her) saying he was a bit concerned for her (MH) to which I got a bit cagey and started asking him why he was so concerned about someone he didn't know/hadn't met. To which it all kicked off and of course the obligatory "you're a stupid jealous bitch/always have been" kind of bullshit. He said he was done and has fucked off to a previously arranged holiday (yup by himself but also partly work related) and hasn't spoke to me for a week. No contact.....nothing.
This has caused me to have some serious anxiety and if you knew me you'd know that that is not normal for me! but i'm being driven crazy by the thought that he prefers her to me despite his declarations of love for me and how i'm his rock.
Am I being taken for a mug?????? Of course there is more of a background but it would end up being like a thesis.....and you'd get bored.....so fire away please let me know you're thoughts oh random strangers :)
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EA or massive overreaction
blackbeardsghost · 14/01/2017 04:32
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