Hello everyone,
Let me start at the beginning......
In the last 2-3 years my wife and I had started to lose contact with each other....we'd be ok with each other but took each other for granted, not a lot of love between us and any problems we had we'd just bottle up, maybe tell our friends but stupidly not tell/talk to each other.....
I run my own business and my wife is a stay at home mum - we have two beautiful girls one of 12 and one of 8
In June of last year - I went away with the 'boys' for 10 days and she was at home with the kids - whilst I was away a family friend (married guy with two young boys) contacted her - he knew I was away....and slowly over the next few months the texts became more and more and (her words) whilst she was at a particularly low point in her life the texts got saucier and sexting began between them.
We went on a family holiday in July/August and she was whatsapping him pictures of herself whilst away....
I'm still oblivious to all of this.....sex started between them and they would go off to local hotels.....
I started to get suspicious in November.....and actually said to her that the way she uses her phone it's as if she was having an affair !
Anyhow - I had an opportunity to see her phone at the end of November and saw all these messages - I died that night.
I won't bore you with the sorry details of the next couple of days - only to say that here we are six weeks later - my wife and I have reconnected.
She is desperately sorry and ashamed for what she did - but we are now in a much better place.....
My question to anyone that's been in this position.....How long will it be until all of my pain has gone - I can't sleep, she found me on the bathroom floor earlier in a ball of snot and tears, I just keep seeing them together and can't get past the pain it's all causing.
Anyone have any input as to how long this lasts....
Do you have any pointers as to how I can move on - and please don't tell me to leave her.....it's taken all of this pain for us both to realise that we mean the world to each other.
Thanks
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My wife had an affair
EmotionalDad · 06/01/2017 01:45
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