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Finally cut the cord and almost better than ok!

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roarfeckingroar Tue 01-Nov-16 14:27:47

Some of you wonderful people might remember my previous threads. I was with a 'man' who regularly shouted at and insulted me when drunk, definitely had the makings of a drink problem, text my Dad abuse about what a terrible slut whore I am, broke a thousand promises and lied to me and lost all interest in sex despite both being in mid-20s with no health issues. Oh and drunkenly crashed my car, had us kicked out of a shared flat, was horrendous with money, many other things.

I was told to cut my losses by the MN massive and given lots of support. I finally moved out 3 weeks ago and felt utterly bereft at the loss of someone who - when not being a twat - was my best friend. I had another thread then whining and was once again given great support so thank you.

Being an idiot I paid for another month on the flat we used to share as he hadn't found anywhere to go and the tenancy ended yesterday, I finally cleared out the last few belongings of mine after a couple of glasses of wine for courage and said goodbye to that chapter that started so wonderfully but ended with me crying almost daily and feeling ugly and invisible.

But today I woke up feeling brilliant. Calm and free and finally back in control. I've been seeing an awesome new personal trainer over the past two weeks and am again tomorrow evening. My friends have seriously rallied around and work is going well. I'm still only 28 and there is so much future without a miserable, negative, alcoholic child holding me back. I even have a date this evening, although I've no interest in falling into another relationship for a long time.

It's all exciting and I thought it would take so much longer to get to this place. I just wanted to update and say thank you flowers for giving me the strength and pointing out that yes, he's a monumental thundercunt and I can and will do better.

issynoho Tue 01-Nov-16 14:30:09

starflowersstar What a lovely message. You've achieved all that AND you have the good manners to come back and say thank you! Your future looks very bright!

Lostandlonely1979 Tue 01-Nov-16 14:31:17

Well done. WELL DONE! What a bright future you've secured for yourself.

BantyCustards Tue 01-Nov-16 14:32:47

Lovely to read. Glad it has already revealed the benefits of leaving him.

Onwards and upwards

TheNaze73 Tue 01-Nov-16 17:35:38

Love this.

Brilliant, upbeat message flowers

roarfeckingroar Tue 01-Nov-16 17:39:25

Thanks !! I'm feeling very upbeat.

First date with a rather lovely seeming chap tonight too...

Myusernameismyusername Tue 01-Nov-16 18:11:48

Brilliant! Onwards and upwards x

roarfeckingroar Tue 01-Nov-16 18:21:45

Nervous about this date. Having quick glass of wine as I finished work and he's hasn't yet. Central London and I have a book. Eek.

Hellothereitsme Tue 01-Nov-16 18:34:26

Just treat the date as a friend. You need time on your own to understand why you tolerated such a waster for a long time. Get out there with your friends and have fun. Good luck.

FishyWishies Tue 01-Nov-16 18:43:50

Life's for living roar, and you're doing just that. Don't compromise ever.

roarfeckingroar Wed 02-Nov-16 08:23:31

The date was just horrendous. Bad breath, rude, boring, overly fond of his own voice. Ugh just awful.

GeekLove Wed 02-Nov-16 09:39:01

See, your QC has been re-calibrated and is working well! Best to avoid the rebound trap and focus on a much-neglected awesome person; yourself!

hellsbellsmelons Wed 02-Nov-16 10:13:28

You'll go through loads more toads and frogs before you find your next Prince.
The realities of OLD are horrid and harsh.
There is normally a thread running to avoid the pitfalls.
Think THIS might be it.
But you are now awesome, all by yourself, so no need to rush into anything for now.
Just enjoy your new freedom and singledom!
Well done for getting shot of the alcoholic knob-head.
Onward and upward for you star

roarfeckingroar Wed 02-Nov-16 11:34:09

QC?

hellsbellsmelons Wed 02-Nov-16 11:44:25

I'm assuming QC is something like a dick-head radar.
But can't begin to imagine what it stands for?

roarfeckingroar Wed 02-Nov-16 12:48:47

Quacking cunt radar? grin

JamieVardysParty Wed 02-Nov-16 12:57:42

I was thinking more along the lines of Quality Control, but I like quacking cunt grin

roarfeckingroar Wed 02-Nov-16 14:37:58

Ohhhhhhhh!!! Yes my twatdar appears to be back on after a dearth of sense. He was dreadful - bad teeth, bad breath, bad chat.

He insisted on finding his private school on the recent league tables because I said I hadn't heard of it...shock

fc301 Wed 02-Nov-16 14:59:47

But on the upside twatdar & thundercunt have now entered my lexicon so you are spreading the joy!!
Well done you, wish you all the best x

hellsbellsmelons Wed 02-Nov-16 15:05:14

Oh roar that made me LOL!
He sounds a hoot...???
Keep dipping your toe in. You'll get there
grin

roarfeckingroar Wed 02-Nov-16 15:43:51

Thundercunt is the best word. I'm glad I'm spreading some joy!

He then told me he only skis with people "of his calibre" then started arguing with me about taxation.

I didn't stay much longer.

fc301 Wed 02-Nov-16 18:39:27

Clearly a member of the twat skiers brigade then ... good for him.

roarfeckingroar Thu 03-Nov-16 17:36:26

Oh god, sorry to be weak but I had a horrendous day at work and I miss him for first time. I know it's just missing familiarity and will not text or call

RedLemonade Thu 03-Nov-16 17:44:35

Don't text! Watch the Lego movie instead. I don't know why but it's hilarious and you need distraction!

Also, never forget, THUNDERCUNT!

AnyFucker Thu 03-Nov-16 17:52:15

Don't contact him. Talk to us instead. And stay off the booze in case you drunk text him

You have done the absolutely right thing. flowers

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