Due to having been in an EA dysfunction relationship before I sometimes doubt my judgement so would be grateful for advice.
Been seeing someone for a few months. For various reasons (partly distance) we don't see each other that often - sometimes once a week, sometimes less. When we do it's great.
We chat a lot online.
He is very warm and loving but.......I feel wary and a few times I've nearly just ended it - because I feel really worried about getting hurt (after hell of last EA relationship) but also because sometimes I feel my instincts are telling me to.
A couple of times he has let me down about arrangements which has put me on red alert. - tho he was very sorry and gave explanations about family illness that rang true so I gave benefit of the doubt.
But anyway today, this again leaves me wondering if I am just hyper sensitive or if there is something else.
As I said , we chat a lot during the day online, usually. Then this morning I sent him a normal message along the lines of 'how's everything, what's happening with you?'
No reply for hours and hours (which is unusual) though could see he was on messaging site talking to others.
Eventually just now, this eve, I get message, not answering my mesage or saying 'sorry so long to answer' etc but just saying
'I'm a bit tipsy (he doesn't drink much usually) I adore you, you're so gorgeous xx'
Now I suppose in a way that's nice? Is it? Or is it annoying? Why do I feel pissed off and why are my instincts being sent into red alert? I mean, I don't feel like answering him. I sort of feel like I did when he let me down last minute. Am I over reacting? Thanks for advice.
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Would this irritate you / be a red flag?
HoursOfFun · 31/10/2016 21:21
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