Been with my DP 5 years we have 2 children together and I have 2 from my previous marriage. The kids are 12,10,2 and 1. We have always had an active sex life even during pregnancy. He works away all week and is only home 2/3 nights a week. We have sex most nights when he's home only doesn't happen if the kids are ill/awake /not settling and he has to be in bed early as he starts work really early (up at 3am first day back) We have normal sex and I dress up/ do role play we use toys etc but not all the time. Well more and more he wants me to dress up for him and have kinky sex. I really don't want to. It's fine as an occasional thing but it feels like way more effort than I want to do to do it all the time. I'm exhausted from having a baby that wakes 5/6 times a night every night and is regularly awake for a couple of hours in the middle of the night. I just want normal love making not a 3 hr sex role play session.
It all came to a head this week he ordered me an egg, a police dress up thing and a baby doll ( I already have loads of stuff) then got really shitty when I came down after getting the kids to bed and having a bath in my pjs. I was knackered after only having 2 hrs sleep the night before being up with the baby, and having been having sex with him. All I wanted was a cuddle watch some crappy tv and to go to bed and make love before going to sleep. Not dress up and have some long bloody session just because he bought me stuff I didn't even want. It's not like I just lie there and do nothing I enjoy sex and take an active role in both foreplay and sex but apparently that's not enough for him. I really think it's because he's watching porn all week while away and is now having some very unrealistic ideas what a healthy sex life is like. We have rowed non stop for the last 2 days now and I really don't know if I can live like this. Am I being unfair or is it really up to me to go to a shit load of effort for him when I get very little out of it?
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happymumof4crazykids · 15/10/2016 19:29
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