Please help me accept the truth.

[Bella64]

I've been seeing a guy I've known for a number of years for about 4 months now, but I know things aren't right and I need some strength to end the relationship. I'd really appreciate some feedback. Firstly he never answers any texts I send. We never go out together anywhere and I see him once every 2 weeks if I'm lucky and that's just for sex, he stays maybe 2 hours then leaves again. I asked if he wanted to meet for coffee one day and he said no, he said that unless we could sleep together he didn't want to see me. I have to sit and wait for him to contact me. He says he loves me, but I don't understand how any of this can be love. I've never felt so worthless or hurt and I know the only person who can stop all this is me. Please can I have your comments, no matter how harsh they are I'd appreciate the words

[painbadger]

You are a booty call - he does not love you.

[Tearsneverdry]

It's not love.
He wants sex ..you already know this tho don't you?
Tell him to piss off

[idontlikealdi]

It couldn't be any more obvious could it?? Block his number and move on.

[Tearsneverdry]

It's not even a relationship ..your a fuck buddy

[myfriendnigel]

Sorry op but he has told you Lesley
What you are to him-Dec and not much more. If you want more than that then you would be best to cut your losses and find someone who deserves you.
It's hard not to project your own feelings about someone on to a relationship that involves sex sometimes-but I think that's what you are doing here, when all he is doing is meeting up for a shag every so often.
This will designate your self esteem if you let it go on.

[PepsiPenguin]

He doesn't love you, your a booty call I'm afraid.

Move on

[myfriendnigel]

Told you clearly. Not Lesley!

[BerylStreep]

I was wondering who Lesley was!

Yes, you are only a booty call. Bin him and leave the path clear for someone worthwhile. Also, try to think about why you have let him do this. Do you not think you are worth more?

[user1471443066]

He doesn't love you....he feels momentary connection with you during/after sex, that's all.

Give yourself two weeks of not contacting him at all, and the drug of him will have worn off.

[SandyY2K]

What does he bring to your life? I suggest you text him you're ending things and block him. I'd normally say just block him... but idiots like him have a tendency to accuse you of cheating. So end it. Block him and go total no contact.

[EdithBouvierBeale]

I'm sorry you are going through this but walk away from him. He doesn't deserve you. You know this already. Be strong.

[Pinkerbeller]

It's not a relationship, it's a relationshit.

Stop shagging the shithead and start asking yourself why you think you're worth so little.

[oldlaundbooth]

'he said that unless we could sleep together he didn't want to see me.'

He could NOT be more explicit, OP.


= no more time of day given to this idiot.

[Bella64]

Thank you all so much for your replies, you'll never know how much you all taking the time out to comment means to me

[adora1]

Why are you staying in this shit relationship, he's using you for sex and that is it, it must surely be obvious to you?

[MatildaTheCat]

He doesn't even think you are worth the price of a cup of coffee.

Ouch, I'm so sorry to have written that but please find whatever self respect you have left and delete his number from your phone. Refuse to open the door. He will probably step up and bring you some petrol station flowers and say 'But Ilooove, you babe.' Don't reply.

Then have some time alone and try to work out how this happened and how to avoid a repeat performance.

[TheNaze73]

He has no respect for you. That must surely be enough for you to end this facade

[ALaughAMinute]

He's not making you happy is he? You can do better than this and you know it. Get rid of him, he's just using you. As for saying he loves you, he's only saying that so he can continue having sex with you. You deserve better.

[SlowJinn]

Being a fuckbuddy only ever works if you both only want a shaggy now and again. You are worth more than this and what you describe isn't love.

Stop all contact. There's no relationship to end. Just be unavailable and find someone who will cherish you.

[QueenLizIII]

he said that unless we could sleep together he didn't want to see me.

Ouch. There it is in black and white.

[WorzelsCornyBrows]

You are categorically not a fuck buddy, he'd have to like you to be that. It sounds like he really doesn't like you at all. Block and move on, you deserve better.

[Luvjubs]

My mum once said to me; 'many boys will tell you they love you. Many boys will tell you what you want to hear. Actions speak louder than any words'
You are a booty call. That is all.

[QueenLizIII]

I had a fuck buddy before. We had sex...that was the fuck part. We had dinner, texted about things other than sex, watched films with a take away on the sofa, had drinks, styaed the night...that was the buddy part.

This guy wants a bang and go. Dont give him it anymore.

[benbry]

He's treating you like a free prostitute.

[PushingThru]

He's not treating you like this because you're a worthless person, he's treating you like this because he is. Every day you spend devoting your emotional energy & headspace to this user, is another day less you get to spend being happy in your future. You have to learn how to protect yourself & say no to people who take the piss.