Met my DP 5 years ago on holiday. He was on a stag do. Not his. Got on very well. Turned out we lived local. Arranged to meet when we got back.
1st date back. He told me he was unhappily engaged. With 2 children. Aged then 3 and 8.
Wrongly I know. I continued seeing him. 3 weeks later he ended his engagement and relationship with her. Not telling her he had met someone else.
He moved into a rented houseHad his kids to stay 2-3 nights a week. I stayed the other nights. Totally understood it wasn't a decision to rush into.
5 years later. He still has not told his ex- but is quick to point out he is not interested in her. And has not told his children about me. Because he doesn't want to risk them being hurt. He barely sees them now does the school run sometimes. And 1-2 hours one day on the weekend. He blames this on me. Because he wants us to work. What am I missing?
We rented a flat together for a while. They never came over. Apparently no one asked where he lived.
His parents and friends all know me. His parents lie for him.
We have had big rows some my fault. Some his. I am very insecure. He regularly "breaks up" with me and vanishes for a couple of nights. Tells me he is done. Then comes back because he can't live with out me.
Am I wasting my time?
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