Me & boyfriend are having a few days apart from each other after a really unpleasant couple of weeks of him freezing me out and not wanting to leave the house (yes he has a mental illness but I perhaps hadn't appreciated quite how severe.)
Over the last month I have started to feel afraid of him and I can't quite pinpoint why. He has never been known to be physically aggressive, however he has had these rages over quite minor issues where a cloud will descend and he grinds his teeth and refuses to interact with me.
For instance, we went to a concert last week and something had not gone quite right for him earlier that day. He was fuming internally so much that he wouldn't even acknowledge my presence - it was as though he wanted everyone around him to feel as horrible as possible, because he did. I actually started crying standing next to him there in public and he knew I was but he just ignored me and pretended to be doing something on his phone. Eventually after about an hour of pleading he came round enough for me to buy him a coffee and have a bit of a chat but I was exhausted. There have been much worse things since then but I don't want to give away too much personal stuff.
Anyway, I just picked up my iPad and there was an old message on there saying that he had just caught the train and would be back in an hour. I went absolutely cold all over and started to panic. After a few seconds I realised it was an old one from a few weeks ago.
I don't feel he will be violent, it's more a worry that he will hurt himself if I don't work hard at keeping things going his way so that he doesn't go into a black mood.
It's over, I can see that. But has anyone else had this experience?
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Ever been afraid of a partner with no good reason?
YabuDabbaDoo · 07/08/2016 21:02
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