Hi
In 2014 I fell pregnant with the guy in question. It was nothing serious, just went out a few times but fizzled in to nothing. I was told at 13 it would be really hard for me to conceive due to Pcos and after 3 years of unprotected sex with ex partner and not falling pregnant, when I got pregnant with this guy although in not an ideal situation I decided to keep it even though he didn't want me too.
He wasn't happy, told me he wanted nothing to do with the baby. Well he came around in the end and saw the baby when he was a newborn. He then decided he didn't want anything to do with the baby again as he had got back with an ex and was scared she would leave him if she knew.
We met up last summer and I fell pregnant again and again I decided to continue and had a daughter in March. My daughter has a heart condition and at present is not very well.
I try to get him to see the babies but he is not interested. He is more interested in sex. He claims I chose to keep the babies so he has no responsibility and he doesn't have too see them. He has offered me money and will give me money if I needed it but I haven't taken any as I don't. He says he didn't want a child and the way we are with eachother (argue all the time) he doesn't want to be involved and if the kids want to contact him when they're teenagers then they're welcome too.
He said that his mum knows about our son only and that she encouraged him to step up (which is when he first met him) but she hasn't said anymore on it. He says he won't be telling his mum. I have her name and address and I'm just wondering if I should write her a letter and said some pictures off the kids with it. I don't expect or even want her to talk him around but I feel giving their family a chance to see them is the right thing to do for their sakes.
What do you think and what should I include in this letter?
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Do I send a letter to his mum regarding her grandchildren?
Tiffanyfoss · 31/07/2016 00:19
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