Hey everyone new here and just needed some advice,
Quick background: I'm 21, I have a 3 year old son with my boyfriend, I've been with him 5 years. He has been been violent to me in the past and as a result myself and my child live on our own and have done for years. (Love it - that's not an issue 🤗) Must add he is great with our son and he is 23.
Tonight we saw each other before he went home and he's in one of his moods which isn't unusual, so I ask him what's up 🙄 and he replies that he doesn't like the way I talk to him lately as in I'm not nice/cute enough don't text him cute things and he doesn't like it that I'm not dressing up for him as much as I usually do and referred to a couple of days ago I was wearing these open toe summer shoes he loves and now I'm just wearing boots 😂 I literally just said umm maybe that's because it was a hot day and today it's been raining I can't wear his favourite stuff all the time! and specifically that I haven't washed and done my hair tonight 😤 I was literally gob smacked at both the stupidity I heard tonight and the audacity he has is astonishing!
He thinks I should dress up and make a huge effort ALL of the time yet he comes round in what ever he pleases and moans at me - i mean I dress well and wear nice makeup etc I take pride in my appearance but I am also entitled to wear a baggy Tshirt and put my hair up back at my apartment when he comes round, no?
He also says he wants me to give him more blow jobs and be sexier, I must add (sorry abit TMI) I have sent sexual pics and texts past few days, yet when I ask for some back it is ALWAYS a no or maybe next time, he refuses to go down there on me (ovbiously after I've showered) and yet expects me to a lot, 2 nights a go we had a row because I was doing that for him and he wouldn't do anything for me yet was saying its not how I want it etc etc moaning it's not good enough.l basically.
He's not fair in this relationship sexually, emotionally or socially, do I just pack it in? He's not been violent for a year and has been seeing a councillor for a good year, (not that that's ok just more info for you), lately I'm just so fed up he expects me to me this trophy girlfriend that looks amazing and sexy and is all over him 24/7 yet won't give anything back! Literally, selfish much!
What do you guys think?
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