Hi guys, any advice is welcome :-D
Ive been in a relationship for 11 years, engaged for 7, he is my best friend, talk about everything have 1 ds together and i have dd from pr
The problem is im sooo confused, the area being our sex life, he is a good provider and after the first 6 months of having ds started being a good dad after pretty much leaving everything to me, i was on the verge of splitting with him :-o
The sex part gets me down so much, it used to be great, but for the last 8/9 years i feel its so one sided, he stopped kissing me besides the odd peck, stopped foreplay, it was just pretty much bj then sex, every time or felt like every time i tried it on he knocked me back but then id discover hed been masturbating to porn which when confronted apologised said he doesnt do it etc, but i found out a few times by various ways( porn on phone, cum covered tissues) which just made it a sort of obsession for me to find out if hed been doing it, i sound awful i know, but my self confidence hit rock bottom, still is tbf, kond of how can i ever measure up to the women in the pornos, im overweight through comfort eating and pretty much feel crap,
Anyway i came to terms with the masturbation after advice on here and decided not to let it get in the way of our relationship cos he is decent in any other way. I love him,
So anyway ive not mentioned masturbation to him in weeks, really trying to supress all feelings of horribleness bout it, his bosy do what you like, told him id never bring it up again, then last night, i asked him why he never kissed me (snog) any more, its been years, when ive asked previously he just says he doesnt want to, if he was to give me a reason id accept it no problem, but no! And he said to me that this must be my new thing to dwell on after masturbation things stopped, im so hurt and upset tbh, should i be or am i overreacting? I just think that whatever i do im wrong, i have to accept my sex life consists of bjs and penetration, very small amount of foreplay and thats my life forever no proper intimacy and this makes me sad, but now im at the point of if i speak to him yet again about the whole thing he will kiss me to apease me and i dont want hom to iyswim, really sorry for the long rambling post guys, any advice is appreciated, but if the rest of yhe relationship is great surely this shouldnt be a major deal, maybe im just being oversensitive, because i do believe he loves me, hes there no matter what through thick and thin,
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Greydays · 30/06/2016 15:56
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