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So what's your age limits?

(59 Posts)
TrafficJunkie Mon 18-Apr-16 18:24:43

Upper/Lower.
I am 31. For example I don't think I would want to date anyone who is over 40 because I think we would probably want different things? I'm also a bit creeped out to date anyone below 26/27, sort of would feel weird if I was more than 5 years older than a man! Is it just me?

TheDatingDoofus Mon 18-Apr-16 18:29:32

Half your age plus 7 should be the lower limit. So if you're 30, that's 22. If you're 40, that's 27.
To get your upper limit, subtract 7 from your age then double it. So if you're 40, your upper limit can be 66. If you're only 20, then you shouldn't go older than 26.

It's just an arbitrary rule I've heard a few times but I actually think it's quite accurate for me personally smile

rumred Mon 18-Apr-16 18:44:52

Not if you're 50...

TrafficJunkie Mon 18-Apr-16 18:45:44

I've never heard this before 😊 I couldn't imagine dating a 22 year old at all!!

rumred Mon 18-Apr-16 18:47:26

I tend to have a rough rule of 10 years either way. It's all a bloody lottery whatever age you go for

Joysmum Mon 18-Apr-16 18:51:14

As I've got a number of friends with 16+ year age gaps, I don't believe in age limits. It's about the person in front of you.

DraenorQueen Mon 18-Apr-16 18:52:34

No upper limit really but I agree with younger feeling a bit odd. Quite frankly after this bastarding man-drought I'd be happy with ANYONE with own teeth, limbs and no homicidal tendencies.

RingUpRingRingDown Mon 18-Apr-16 19:06:11

I'm 44. Couldn't imagine fancying anyone under 40. Tbh, I rarely find younger men attractive.

Upper limit would be 60, I think.

Ideal man would be 10 years older.

Oysterbabe Mon 18-Apr-16 19:13:07

I think I could go 5 years either way.

PeppermintPasty Mon 18-Apr-16 19:29:13

Had a 13 yr relationship with someone 14 years younger than me.

Mind you, they were a total twat in the end all the way through and I was a mug and it didn't finish well grin

<understatement of the century>

I think a more relevant question for lasting happiness is whether they are a cunt, as opposed to what age they are.

haveacupoftea Mon 18-Apr-16 19:46:33

I am 30...ideally i guess from 27-35 but agree that its the person not their age that counts.

noisytoys Mon 18-Apr-16 19:50:03

I'm 28 and DP 32. Would be reluctant to go younger at all. Upper age maybe 40.

TheNaze73 Mon 18-Apr-16 20:01:56

I'm 44. Never lower than 50 & probably no older than 60

EponasWildDaughter Mon 18-Apr-16 20:10:49

I would always have said no more than 2 years younger and 5 years older ...

... but life likes to have it's own way and DH is 10 years younger than me and by god i'm a happy woman grin We've been together 10 years this autumn. Married 4.

(XH was 2 years older than me)

DizzySiddal Mon 18-Apr-16 20:17:29

As long as you're compatible, age is immaterial. I met DH when he was 19 and I was 31 - he proposed five days after we met and we're still very happily married 13 years later. My ex was exactly the same age as me and a complete arse. There are things that are far more detrimental to a prospective relationship than age differences.

Cabrinha Mon 18-Apr-16 20:25:23

It's about life stage rather than age for me, hence being more comfortable with an age gap now I'm older.

At 40 I set my OLD range from 35-49.

The reason I didn't go a full 10 younger is that I think that 30-35 was more of a looking to have kids age, and I don't want more.

49 was because in my experience as soon as you say 50, those 60+ take a punt. Fair enough for them, but with 20+ more working years I didn't fancy a retiree! Life stage again.

As it happened a 51yo asked if I minded an approach - and now we're getting married ❤️

HixieRice Mon 18-Apr-16 20:37:39

Minus 5 and plus 10, I think. The half-plus-seven is just weird IMO, but I totally agree that it depends on the person.
I'm a bit curious to see if my upper limit comes down as I get older too. Can't imagine fancying an old man!

TrafficJunkie Mon 18-Apr-16 20:37:50

Yeah I guess it doesn't count too much and if you click, you click.
I don't even know where to meet actual people these days. Leads me into another thread I think smile

I agree it is slim pickins out there; if you've got baggage of kids and exes and worse still the more kids you have apparently...then it makes dating hard.

Plus Tinder is a load of shite smile

SavageBeauty73 Mon 18-Apr-16 22:34:27

I'm 42. 5 years each way I reckon.

happyandsingle Mon 18-Apr-16 22:42:22

Im 37 and could not date someone older than early 40s. Most men look pretty worn after 42 and as soon as they go grey it reminds me of dating my grandad. I could date from 31 upwards though!!!😀😀

UptownFunk00 Mon 18-Apr-16 23:13:40

I'm 26 and married but if I wasn't I'd say 20-32 would be about right.

Using the rule mentioned above my lower limit would be 20 and my upper would be 45.

No way would I go for someone 45 though. I think that the upper rule should be a third of your age added on really. So if you are 21, 28.
If you are 30, then 40 and if 45 then 60.

For lower limit I'd go minus a 5th of your age so 20 would be 16, 25 would be 20
30 would be 24
40 be 32
50 would be 40
60 would be 48
70 would be 56.

That would be around 20 mark for me and 33.

AnotherEmma Mon 18-Apr-16 23:16:08

No older than your parents and no younger than your children!

I know people who have broken this rule.

lolo14 Tue 19-Apr-16 14:04:31

Interesting thread. I usually go for men a bit older than me but I've met a 25 year old fella who's really nice. I'm 37. When I was 28 I dated a 50 year old so clearly I have no issues with age gaps! shock

heron98 Tue 19-Apr-16 14:11:17

A few years ago I would have said similar.

However, I am 34 and OH of nearly 5 years is 25.

I had no idea how young he was when we met (he was 20, I almost 30) and by the time I found out I had already fallen for him.

It's working out so far!

TrafficJunkie Tue 19-Apr-16 14:43:56

I never had a problem with age in my early twenties. I dated plenty of older guys - 40 year old men and a couple of younger guys although when I dated an 18 year old when I was 20 it was horrible!!!
But now I feel really conscious of it for some reason. I don't want much past 40 ish because I honestly think he won't want much fun and if he does - he's probably not going to stick around. And I think many younger than 25s won't want a 31 year old spinster. 😂😂

I would like a nice divorcee, about 35, kids of his own, job, life of his own but we somehow slot together. Optional extras would include tall and dark haired, musically talented, funny, average build and own transport. Not asking for much. 😂

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