Bit of background -
Ex and I departed 2 years ago. We have 3DC ranging from 5-10. We had a sexless marriage, he had a drink problem and didn't have a good relationship wth with DD ( 8 at the time, not his biological daughter but has been dad since she was 1).
I left him after falling for a friend. My mother suspected an emotional fair was happening and told ex, he hit me, I fled the house and we separated.
He moved in with my mother, who then repeated followed me in her friends car taking pictures of me at the friends house to show ex. She tried to get ex to apply for full custody of DC, knowing full well access to them was going to be hard via me after what she'd done.
Ex then proceeded to sleep with lots of women, introducing DC to 5 in 5 months. He was a mess emotionally and changed his days with DC about 5 times to suit whatever new woman he was seeing. I just wanted him to be happy so that he could be a good parent to DC.
So now -
I live with my partner. for 9 months we've had a great arrangement re the days ex sees DC. He had them 2 days one week, 3 the next. He has now changed it again as settled in a relationship with new partner, so he has them 4 one week, two the next.
He is back living with my mother (we don't speak, DM and I) who provides free childcare, cheap rent and food. She also smokes and lets the DC run riot.
He has now said with DM's help he wants 50/50 access to the kids.
He works full time. I work part time as i was always a SAHM. He is very much 'fun dad'. He lets the DC play on the computer all day and eat sweets, has DM on hand to entertain them and they love going there. I feel like the wicked witch as do the brunt of the school run.
I am not happy with his proposed arrangement, I don't really want DM caring for my DC and I have a strong suspicion ex is only doing this so he pays less maintenance (he already owes me almost £1000 in unpaid maintenance)
I am terrified I'm losing my DC to them.
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Borlie · 21/03/2016 08:59
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