I'm a SM with a 5yr old DD. I split from XP when she was 18months. He has supervised access (long story). I had MH issues, depression and anxiety at the time.
Anyhow I met my new partner a year ago. He had been divorced and had a 9yr old DS. He was fun, great social life, an extrovert. It became serious quite quickly. He told me he loved me (still does every day). Asked me to marry him etc
All going well... Until he moved in, lost his job and has turned into an douche bag.
I have financial difficulties of my own and cannot afford to support him or his DS. He is doing nothing to find a job. I have updated his cv, spend hours trawling for jobs and applying online as I am better than him (apparently) at technology. He spends his time trawling Facebook, doing hobbies and eating.
We had a massive row before Xmas over his expectation that I should do all the housework (I work full time) because it isn't his mess!!!! I threw him out and now I regret letting him back in.
He took it on board and does more around the house. He blames his low mood but I think he feels the tasks are women's work. He talks down to me at times.
Example - caught a heavy cold off him over the weekend spent two days feeling terrible. Accused of being a drama queen, I had it worse than you etc etc. Lost my temper with him, told him I was not happy with his lack of support. Later that night he apologised and suggested we looked for wedding venues at the weekend!!
He can be incredibly sweet with DD but berates me for being too soft with her.
Having been burned badly last time I'm testing the waters. Am I being over sensitive or is my gut right and this relationship bad news and potentially EA?
Sorry this is so long!
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EA behaviour or am I over sensitive?
sarahlou75 · 23/02/2016 00:08
Which is where I find myself over a barrel. He doesn't qualify for benefits and has no close family nearby. I would be making him homeless. I know it isn't my problem but I feel bad kicking out onto the streets.
He also downplays the issues and makes me feel slightly ridiculous and then is really sweet. All of which is making me uneasy 
Ummm not very long, he was upset so was I. He went off in my car and came back later that night. Willing to talk things through, admitted he was in the wrong etc. I caved in not my finest hour 
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