I've been LC with my PIL for a while, they were extremely physically abusive to my lovely DH. After a breakdown DH got counselling and started to cut down contact himself, then we had the flying monkeys, health scares etc.
FIL called tonight saying an ambulance was there, MIL's heart had stopped. DH went over (I have a ear infection that's gone into the bone so very ill at present, or I'd have gone to support DH) and while DH was there MIL was pronounced dead.
BIL is on way over, DH has asked that I call him at 7pm to give him a reason to come home (by blaming me being ill, needing him). BIL has been a flying monkey in the past, and DH doesn't get on well with him, he was the golden boy and DH the scapegoat.
How on earth do I support DH through this? He's still in FOG, he's going to feel awful for being LC I know it, he's going to blame himself for all this. He said FIL is a wreck, DH doesn't know what to do. I've told him to do what feels right for him, not to worry about anyone else.
Please help me, I just want to help DH through all this.
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Please help! Abusive MIL just died, how to help DH
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CrazyCatLady13 · 12/01/2016 18:24
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