First of all - apologies for the long post, just really looking for some advice.
In October, my husband of 8 years (together for 14) told me he had been n unhappy with our relationship for around 6 months. He couldn't really explain why but he felt we had turned into house mates rather than husband and wife and he didn't love me any more. We decided he would move out, give him some space that he felt he needed then start working on things together - going on dates etc He assured me that there was no one else involved and no one else would become involved while we were trying to work things out. We have 2 children aged 2 and 5 and because of this we still had to see each other every day. When he moved out, we carried on having family meals together, doing things as a family, us going to his flat, him coming to the family home. We carried on sleeping together but he refused to have any of the date nights etc that he had promised. In December, he also avoided any situation where we would be able to sleep together again. I knew something was wrong and last week he told me he was seeing someone else. He has gone from telling me that he doesn't love her to her being more important than me. He still texts me about random things, nothing to do with the children, tells me he still fancies me, crys when we talk about what has happened and says how sorry he is. He assures me that he had decided it was completely over with us before he started this new relationship, he just didn't have the guts to tell me it was over and its nothing to do with the other woman. The speed that their relationship is progressing makes me sick. He admits he was happy in our relationship for 13.5 years and it was just the last 6 months that made him unhappy. We were best friends, perfect together almost. He still comes into out house like he's my best friend, tells me everything that's been happening with him, makes himself coffee etc when he comes to see the kids. He tells me I still know him better than anyone else in the world and our relationship will always be important to him.
As for the other woman, she is 6 years younger than him, never been in a long term relationship, no kids etc They can have the life together that we had before our children came along, no worries about paying bills, ferrying the girls to all of their clubs etc I don't understand why anyone in her position would want to get involved with this man literally just out of a 14 year relationship with 2 young children.
One of the most hurtful things is that it just seems as though I've been replaced - she is being taken to see his family for the weekend etc - no one seems to think he is doing anything wrong as long as he is happy.
The thing is all I want is for him to come back so we can work on things. I miss him so much and feel so lonely. I haven't been eating or sleeping. I have anxiety issues anyway and this has just made things 100 times worse. I know he seems head over heals with her but I love him and can't help how I feel.
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CEG1983 · 09/01/2016 10:58
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