DH and I were away with his family over New Year, and while we were away, my DB and SIL spent a couple of nights in our house while visiting friends in the area.
They had left before we got home, and left us a bottle of wine, chocolates and some food in the fridge to say thanks for letting them stay, along with 2 wrapped presents, with each of our names on the paper. No card or gift tag.
We opened them (nothing special, traditional 'Christmasy' things), and I sent a text to my DB to say thanks for the pressies, and let's catch up soon.
I've just spoken to him and he said the presents were from my father, who I haven't spoken to for nearly a year. I asked why he has bought us presents, and DB said it might be an 'olive branch'.
The last contact I had with him was by email, in which I said that until him and his wife were prepared to apologise for something they had said and done, DH and I would not be seeing them.
We still haven't had an apology, they still refuse to accept they did anything wrong, and I'm not inclined to accept a cheap present in lieu of clearing the air and getting an apology.
My first reaction is that I should return them, but I've spoken to DH and he thinks that is both passive aggressive and closes the door permanently. He thinks we should keep them and not acknowledge receiving them.
Thoughts?
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Christmas presents from estranged relatives - keep, return, bin?
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wasabipeas · 04/01/2016 15:35
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