OK wise mumsnetters. What should DP say to his Dsister in the new year re NC situation with DBIL.
So DP's sister was unfortunate enough to marry a prize cunt. Said cunt over the course of many years has committed serious crimes against humanity, to which DP responds in the expected way. A few years ago it culminated into huge shout down and stand-off, they have been NC ever since. Consequently communication with his Dsis has been reduced. Occasional texts/ cards.
So the Dsis sends a text today reading
"Can you put your differences with DBIL aside because I am increasingly depressed about the situation and can't see a way forward please call in the new year so we can talk"
This has come as a shock because DP simply hates the bastard for very good and simple reasons that the sis is fully aware of this and knows why. Now she is putting the onus on DP? Why?
DBIL has behaved appallingly. He is controlling, has prevented DP's sister from living independently.
He opted out of raising their own child now 9yo (preferring to live away 5 days a week for work) once spent all their shared savings on a car for himself, blatantly had an affair for 7 years, drops the sister off so she can have coffee with her mum but waits outside and allocates her an hour max, drives her wherever she wants but waits for her and complains if she takes too long, he talked and joked all through the funeral of DP and Sis Father, and has endlessly upset their mother for numerous behaviours.... OK this is just the tip of the iceberg believe me.
DP is flabbergasted. "Please put aside your differences" WTAF.
I have said to him that he needs to have it out with her once and for all. Dp should recount all of the crimes against humanity that DBIL has committed, explain how each is unforgivable, this is not how you treat someone you love, and maybe finally knock some sense into her?
While his behaviour is not her fault, she needs to be held accountable for not preventing him from upsetting the entire family.
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What should DP say to his DSIS after this text?
0phelia · 29/12/2015 21:36
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