DP left two weeks before Christmas. Very sudden and unexpected. He collected his things a couple of days afterwards and no contact since.
He's gone back to where his family are, which is the other end of the country. We've had a stressful few months but also really good times.
I have a six year old son and ex isn't his father but has been in his life since DS was 3. I haven't told DS yet and just said ex is visiting family for Christmas.
Definitely no OW. Ex said he felt lost and didn't know who he was anymore. This has completely come out of the blue. No major arguments but bickering. We had sex the day before he left.
I have mental health problems that were worse in the past few months, and ex was really unhappy in his job. To me this is just life, good bits and bad bits. We'd done all the Christmas shopping for DS and ex had bought my gift.
I'm so blind sided and confused and fucking gutted. We looked at rings online and although I knew the proposal wasn't imminent, we had plans for the future. We were saving to buy a house and his parents had given him money towards a deposit.
I have no idea what to do and how to get over this. Time, unfortunately. I know he's handing his notice in at his job and has no other ties to where I live, so I'll never see him again. He said it wasn't planned. We were meant to go away for NY and it was booked and paid for.
I feel like the worst human ever that I made him feel so awful that this was his only option.
What do I do? How the fuck do I get over this? He was wonderful. Not so much at the end.
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lampshady · 26/12/2015 21:47
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