Hello all!
After 2 weeks of hell I'm finally eating and sleeping. I'm so upset, maybe you can give me some insight.
We had spoken off and on for months, but then he went after me hard and we started dating. He's a band manager and travels for a couple of months at a time, and he's been traveling for most of this year and I don't have a problem with it as I'm pretty independent.
He had the summer off so we spent a lot of time together, going out to eat, shopping, etc. The sex was amazing, he was super cuddly and we would spend hours talking about our lives. He went away for work for a few weeks and kept texting me, sweet emotional things and I knew he was falling for me. I was falling for him. We learned a lot about each other and always laughed and watched movies and felt comfortable with one another.
We had a few days together and they were nice. He went on his trip and shortly after he texted me and told me he loves me. I reciprocated and Was super happy.
That was three months ago. He started going 3 or 4 days without texting me and would claim to be busy. We would still have conversations and he would still be lovely so I gave him space and didn't push him. He's been divorced for a long time and doesn't like to fall in love, so I didn't want to pressure him. He mentioned that girls in the past have had a problem with his traveling.
I would be super nervous when it would be 4 days without a text, but he would always come back and be loving. I did want to have a Skype session but I never asked.
But then the days without hearing from him grew. He would ignore my texts (just little nice texts saying I missed him and such. I would send one every 2 days or so) yet would be on social media. I lost it after seeing a bunch of girls on his Facebook page and called him out. He has a bit of a reputation and I'm not stupid. We had a huge fight and I thought that was it. A week later he was back and calling me a pet name. I told him I missed him 2 days later. Nothing. I texted him again a week after. Nothing.
I'm very confused. I do think he's seeing other girls(we never had the talk but had a conversation before he left that we weren't sleeping with other people). He had the chance to end it when we fought, but he didn't. Then he came back and now it's been 2 weeks.
7 months and he just disappears? I'm heartbroken. I haven't asked him what is going on or why he's doing this because I don't want to lose my dignity.
I've read about EU men and he does follow some of the patterns, like popping in and out of my life, but he's never gone 2 weeks without contacting me and he has been pretty emotional with me in the past. We always spent the night together at his place and cuddled.
I keep thinking he's in Europe having sex with all these girls and has forgotten me. I wonder if he even misses me at all. It makes me sad and i was always so good to him.
He could have just broken it off when we fought and blocked me. I'm so confused why he's silent.
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