Have I an unrealistic view of how it should be?
I come from a small family - just me, my brother and parents. We don't have many relatives- all my parents' relatives have died.
My brother is younger than me and we don't live near each other.I'm becoming more and more disappointed by his lack of interest in my kids (who are now adults.) He is unmarried, never had a relationship beyond 6 months with anyone (they dumped him) and he doesn't appear now to want a relationship (he's almost 50). When my kids were younger he did send them the odd Xmas and birthday voucher but once they were a bit slow to thank him (typical teenagers and I didn't approve) so he stopped. They continue to send him a Xmas card. He doesn't give my DH anything at Xmas - only buys for me- and never ever visits us (he did once or twice when my kids were younger and hid behind his magazines he'd brought with him, barely talking to them.)
The thing is, when he and I were kids at home, our house was full of our relatives- aunts, uncles, grandparents - and we were a close family. I feel disappointed that he's made no effort whatsoever to create any kind of relationship with my kids because he is their only uncle in the UK (their other one lives half way across the world and has emigrated.)
I'm just ranting really, but it's come to the fore in my mind lately as both my DCs have had fairly major changes / events in their lives and he's not shown a jot of real interest.
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