Hi all
Posted this thread last month.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2493342-dd-s-dad-is-being-a-dick
ExP has become increasingly disinterested (cancelling seeing DD on her birthday & not coming to her important medical appointment that he usually attends).
Last Friday he had her overnight & I had a night out.
Throughout DD's life, whenever he puts her to bed & she has settled, he texts me. He used to do it automatically but now I text & he immediately updates me. But last Friday he didn't. So I texted him. And rang him. And rang again. Basically I had a gut feeling that something wasn't right & as he lives 5 mins from me, my friends & I went back to my place via his. We knocked on the door. The lights were on but it appeared the place was empty, but her buggy & overnight bag were in the hallway. After texting, knocking & ringing him several times, we all became very worried. I decided to call 101. I was in bits with worry.
The police told me they would send a unit asap. I have never felt so sick with worry. After 45 mins of standing outside his house, he rang me. He told me that DD was with him at his GF's house. This was 3 hours after my initial text. I was incredibly angry & told him the police were involved & asked for GF address. GF then came on the phone saying she didn't want 'all this impacting on her career!?!'
I just wanted to see my daughter so me & my friends got a taxi over to their place & got her. DD seemed unaffected by it all, & went straight to bed when we got home.
I wouldn't have been fussed that they were staying with his GF if only he had told me & texted to say DD was settled, everything could have been avoided. On return to the house with DD, the police were waiting to speak to me about everything.
As I think I said in my previous thread, ExP never instigates overnight stays for DD, never asks how she is, and I just feel exhausted with constantly asking him to make time for her as I want her to see him & his family & have a relationship with them. I feel like I can't trust him anymore & don't know where to go from here.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
Any advice?
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DD's dad is STILL being a dick!
Robotgirl · 15/11/2015 16:36
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