This has been creeping up on me for a while. Have DD 13 and DS 11, DH and me. From the outside I am sure we look like the ideal family - great house, healthy, sociable, solvent etc. For the last year or so we seem to be drifting. Everything just feels bleuh. We never seem to do anything fun together or enjoy being with eachother.
We have a v traditional set up - DH works, I work PT from home in a v minor job and do all chores etc apart from the garden and money matters. Kids hardly ever do anything to help around the house and have to be nagged to do so, including picking up towels and tidying bedrooms.
I cant think of many instances that demonstrate that we are kind to eachother - the kids bicker constantly and whilst they are really lovely kids I can't honestly say they are kind/helpful/caring etc.
Weekends seem screen based by default and getting them out and about seems a chore. They don't seem to want to play games together or go for walks etc.
Me and DH are in a bit of a rut and sometimes I worry about the long term once kids have left.
I get the feeling sometimes we are more like 4 individuals who live together than a family. As Christmas approaches I find myself looking at pics of them when they were tiny and wishing I could go back to then and do things differently. I am crying now writing this.
I don't even really know what I'm looking for with this. The whole of my focus since having the kids has been my family and I feel now as if I've failed. I worry that when they are grown they won't be close to eachother or us.
I don't know what to do. Oh God this all sounds so self pitying but at least I've got it out there.
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I feel like we've lost our way as a family
tactum · 27/10/2015 10:27
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