Met a guy online, seemed nice, had four lovely dates. Knew he wasn't looking for anything too intense but when I pushed him on the third date he actually said all he really wanted was a friends with benefits type thing. No commitment. He worded it very frilly but that is what he described I said whilst I didn't want anything intense either I can't do no strings, just not wired that way. So we said the whole "lets be friends" thing and left it at that. So that's the background.
We stopped talking for a week and I deleted him off everything (social media stuff) and that was ok then I got a message asking why. Said he was upset and didn't want to throw away the possibility of friends as we had so much in common. He said he meant it about staying in contact and maybe doing the odd thing together (we had a lot in common). I thought the let's be friends thing was just a platitude like it normally is, you know. So fair enough and we arranged to maybe meet up when my DS is away this half term (at his dad's for Halloween) but he's being super flaky (can't say for sure about anything ever) and I don't like to waste my free time on flaky people, ever. I don't have any flaky friends and that's deliberate. And any conversation is now really one sided, in that he just talks about himself and is a bit rude, cuts you off about stuff etc.
So despite him making a big thing about us having loads in common it's not that harsh if I just drop out of contact is it? I don't normally make friends out of OD. It's you like them and go on more dates or it's not for you and you stop contacting each other
(And yes I know this is a tiny tiny problem compared to most stuff on this board but it's just a weird situation to be in and I've had a tonne of essay deadlines & things with DS this week and my brain is fried ).
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Total first-world problem. But is it harsh to just drop this guy?
TheOrchardKeeper · 27/10/2015 07:13
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