...can it be sorted, or is this the beginning of the end?
Dp and I just seem to be in a bad place at the moment, and I don't know how to get us back on track. He's just stormed out of the room because - I assume - I've said the wrong thing again. We've only just started talking again after yesterday when we spent the entirety of a five-hour train journey in silence because I'd pissed him off the night before. Earlier in the week I was angry with him because I feel as if he's taking me for granted etc etc and we didn't speak for two days.
I'm just really fed up. We've been together only 4 years and I thought this was, finally, the one that was going to last. I had even entertained the notion of marriage! But recently we just seem incapable of spending more than a couple of days without one of us getting in a strop with the other, and I am starting to wonder if we really have a future together. The thought of spending another X years with one or other of us in 'moods' half the time is horrendous.
We are both good people, not perfect, but good. We both have our good points and our faults. He drives me up the wall at times and I know that I'm not always easy to live with. I hate the thought that this might be another failed relationship. I hate the thought of breaking up. But it's starting to feel very familiar and I don't know how to stop the rot.
Part of me just thinks, fuck it. Life is too short to be walking on eggshells. The other part thinks, relationships have their ups and downs and you should work at it. He's a good man, ds really likes him, it's just a phase, etc etc. It just feels like the times when we're enjoying each other's company are getting fewer and fewer and the times when we're pissed off/irritated with each other are more frequent.
I just can't bear the thought of another bloody night spent on the edge of the bed with our backs to each other.
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When you're just pissing each other off ALL the bloody time...
Onelegtoofew · 19/10/2015 22:46
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