sorry just needed to talk to someone and need shaking. i split up with my husband in February and we are going through the divorce procedure. The relationship had been over for a long time really but i tried to hold it together for the children despite ongoing emotional abuse and myself and the children walking on egg shells constantly.
my ex rarely sees the children unless i suggest it, doesnt instigate contact, isnt going for any type of custody as he really had no interest whilst we were a family, when he does see them he tends to rush back with them. The children dont actually like going to see him and my son has said he doesnt love his dad (without encouragement) myy daughter jumps between feeling sorry for him and missing him to having no interest. After the latest visit they told me he shouted at them for laughing and (from description) whipped my daughter with a jacket. despite me suggesting a cheap local day out to a event he took them to his friends to watch films.
Anyway cut to the chase he has a new girlfriend, im happy for him not interested in getting him back in the slightest but am battling with weird feelings that i cant explain! im concerned about him wanting to play happy families, what if she has children who would end up being step brothers/sisters etc what if he has more children? he was so useless with ours it would really hurt if he could be a good dad to other kids. im worried she will know all about me where as i know nothing about her.
i have a new partner 4 months who i am besotted with and the children have met him, they get on wonderfully and are with us 99% of the time. so do i have a right to feel like this??
please help me understand my feelings as i have no friends or family who have been in my position to ask advice from.
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rockinrollers · 03/08/2015 09:48
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