My DP and I have been together for five years. We're perfect for each other in many ways and he is (mostly) very tolerant of my ASD related quirks. Our biggest issue however, is sex.
He says we don't have it enough but will never initiate it. We could be sitting in the lounge watching TV and he will just be sitting there, getting more and more annoyed that an aforementioned sex session hasn't happened.
I've spoken to him loads of times and said that I like to be approached in a certain, gentle and cuddly way. This usually works and rarely ends in me saying no.
In case you're thinking I'm a total nutcase, I was sexually abused as a child and sexually assaulted as a teenager. I refuse to be anyone's "where there's a hole, there's a goal".
My DP however, has a very high sex drive and this is our biggest issue. He tells me he is frustrated that we only do sexual stuff once or twice a week.
I tell him to initiate it more. Actually do something loving. He knows how to get things going but doesn't seem to do it. He just waits for me to suggest it and we just get straight to it. I end up feeling a bit used.
Am I being totally precious here?
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Issues with sex
Grapeeatingweirdo · 26/07/2015 22:54
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