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My mum has put me through some awful things. When I was 14 I was raped by my brother. He admitted what he had done to her before he was arrested. She then told anyone that would listen that I was lying. She abandoned me in support of my brother.
She (and others in the family) pressured me into dropping my statement by telling me he had been attacked in prison and that if he went to jail he would be murdered or kill himself and that I would be put into care.
She then threw me out at 18, whilst still supporting and housing my brother (3 years older). I was on a dismal wage and barely kept myself together, eating smartprice noodles and pasta.
She then disowned me when I got pregnant a few years later, as I had told my Auntie before her. I was staying with her for a few months when I found out I was pregnant and she threw me and my unborn child out and didn't speak to me until he was 5 weeks old.
I invited her to come and see DS and she said she had no intention of speaking to me at all, she just wanted to see her grandson.
A couple of years passed and our relationship was a lot better than it had been in a long time. No explosive arguments or dramas since my son was born.
I moved into her house whilst I was looking for a new place. Me and DS arrived about a month ago. Most times she is a bit mean to him. Constantly telling him off for normal toddler things. She doesn't do this with her first born GC, who she looks after every weekend, at her request.
We had a row on Sunday over me speaking to someone she doesn't like and it ended with her telling me to present myself to homeless.
I was heartbroke and so angry, not that she would do it to me again but that she would ever think of putting my Son out on the street.
I think that's when it hit me that she isn't a Mother/Grandmother. She's just a person. At every turn she blames me for everything and makes out I'm a horrible person who ruined her life.
I'm aiming to be out in a couple of weeks. I feel I let my son down by coming here when she would so easily put him out on the street or in a hostel with dangerous/unstable people. I never in a million years thought she would project the hate she feels for me towards my beautiful son. Aren't Nana's supposed to adore, spoil and love their GC no matter what?
I think I may move away from the borough she lives in.
How do I go the rest of my life without a Mum?
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