I've been with DP for 15 happy years. Solid relationship, 3 DC. We were both atheists when we got together and until recently, but I've recently started thinking that maybe I believe in God. For DP this is a complete game changer. Everything that I thought was solid about our relationship seems to be, for her, dependent on my remaining an atheist. I'm not, and never will be, and kind of fundamentalist anything and my politics, my feminism, my lesbianism, my moral values are all the same as they have ever been (and match hers). But she is seriously talking about moving out in 6 months if I haven't given up this nonsense. So, should I (a) make myself stop believing - I was an atheist before so if I try hard enough/ read the God Dulusion (again) etc it might be possible? (b) pretend to do (a) but just secretly believe, and conceal my faith, (c) accept that I can't make her stay, and that we have grown apart, and put my energy into ensuring the DC are put first in the eventual separation, or (d) not let her make this the be all and end all and fight for my marriage tooth and nail?
I've been working at (d) but it getting harder each day. Wwyd?
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Notapassingphase · 22/06/2015 07:21
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