Showed up at 9pm banging on my door so I let him in, at which point he stood in my kitchen telling me to kill him, then he left.
Then I was woken up by banging on the door at 2:30am at which point he started begging me to let him in and said he needed my help. I offered to pass him out some money to get him a taxi home but he refused and just kept knocking for half an hour then left.
Then back he came at 3:30 am. Banging again. Telling me that he was just going to go and kill himself. I still didn't let him in and eventually he left.
Now he's messaged saying he has pulled himself together.
This has been going on for the past week, not him coming round but me waking up to 30+ emails ranging from begging me to come back to calling me names and saying he hates me.
I really don't know how to handle this now. We were together for 3 years, but for the last 2 he never really bothered with me at all, never came round much, spent all his money on going out drinking or feeding the bandit etc, and when I had a miscarriage stopped talking to me completely. Even when i said how much I needed him after losing the baby.
He wasn't even bothered when we did break up, didn't send a message at all, this has all only started since I started dating someone.
I don't understand it at all or know what to do. On one hand, he wasn't arsed about me at all and was really nasty to me when we were together, but on the other hand if I ignore him and he does kill himself it'll be my fault won't it?
I do have a DS with disabilities so I get next to no sleep during the week, and tonight is my only night of proper sleep as he goes to his dad's and now I've hardly got any so I'm really tired and emotional as well which isn't helping me think clearly.
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Hurr1cane · 13/06/2015 04:31
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