This is probably just going to be completely garbled but I'm tired, emotional and confused!
How do you know if you really are useless or if it's just the way someone makes you feel? I constantly feel like I'm a terrible mum, awful around with work around the house because of how I'm made to feel. My self esteem is at rock bottom with everything but I don't know if I genuinely am just useless at everything or if he's being controlling and a bit of a nob. I tend to go between the 2 depending on how I feel.
We've got a 2 year old and however I dress her is wrong, I filled her milk up for bed the other day and he had to come and put more in (which then overflowed because it was too full but it felt like he had to do it just to correct me again), if I'm changing her nappy or getting her ready for bed he comes and takes over, when he comes in from work if the windows are closed he makes a big deal of opening them or vice versa, however I cut her meat or anything with dinner he has to do it again. It's loads of petty stuff like that but I no longer feel confident to make any decisions myself as it feels that everything I do is wrong.
I'm unhappy but feel like if it is me that's just being rubbish then I should be trying to change before making any decisions.
I have asked him to stop doing certain things before as I said that him doing it made me feel useless. He said that that wasn't his problem, if that's how I feel then that's my fault for feeling like that, not his for saying or doing whatever.
I'm just so confused, he says I'm a great mum,I hear him tell my daughter that I'm the best mum in the world but just feel the opposite. I'm not sure if I'm completely imagining it now!
This is probably too garbled for anyone to understand to reply to anyway, maybe I just needed to get some of how I'm feeling off my chest.
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How do I know if it's me or not?
Bumpkin2 · 30/05/2015 23:58
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