Hey all,
I hate myself for for the way I handled this situation. I have known a friend for a few months now. So, recently about a couple of months ago, she started having an affair with a married man. Not sure if they have slept together yet but from the texts she showed me and their pics together suggested they were closer that I thought. They have been out for coffee several times after school drop offs, he treated her for her birthday, and spend alot of time together. When she first told me that this man liked her and she likes him too, i adviced her to stay away and stop the mini dates and flirty texts. She didn't listen to me so they both carried on. His wife doesn't suspect anything from my observation but I started feeling sorry for her. She is such a lovely lady and they have 3kids together. So, fast forward the whole situation, I started resenting my friend for her behaviour because I know how it feels to find out your better half is having an affair and to make matters worse, it hurts most if its a close friend. I confided on an another friend and asked her to advice me. She didnt say much but she was shocked. Little did I know that she went and told every one from our circle of friends. I don't know what to do, but I wish id kept quiet about it. This happened a couple of day ago.
I'm stressed out because my biggest fear is that if they are confronted they are most likely going deny it and I'll look like am the liar. My friends will hate me and supposedly assume I'm just out to ruin someone's marriage.
Do you think I should speak to my friend who is having an affair and apologize talking to someone else about her affair? I'm really really confused, I hope you'll be abled to understand and help me out.
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Friend affair exposed, need some advice please
mrsbluemuffin · 05/01/2015 12:39
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