DH is nc with his mother. Various reasons which I respect.
We have a DS. I still facilitate contact with DS and MIL, I am friendly and simply refuse to discuss their NC as although I respect his decision I see it as not my business to discuss or mediate. DH respects the fact that I still speak to MIL for the sake of DS and is happy with the way we have worked round everything. DS is unaware of the NC.
MIL wanted to see DS over Christmas, DS wants to see her. I had arranged with her to go through to the city she lives to visit her between Christmas and New Year. Also to have a special 'Mum and Son' day with DS. This is nice for DS and I, and also allows for a reason to why Dad doesn't come without bringing a child into the family drama.
Why is she now, unannounced at my door?! She rang the bell and the house phone. She's been there around 20 minutes now. I have the feeling she won't leave until she sees us. I don't think she knows we're in as she'd be shouting by now.
She seems to expect me to 'take DH in hand' and demand he speak to her. DH and I don't tell each other what to do. He's made a decision as an adult and I respect it. Why has everything got to be a huge fucking drama on her terms. DH has done everything he can to keep me and DS out of the middle of this. She wants a huge happy reunion for Christmas, I get that. But argh!
I don't even know why I'm posting this. I don't want to cut her out, for DS alone. But I try to facilitate her seeing DS and I, we talk regularly and I keep her informed, but it has to be on her terms.
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SickoftheGames · 24/12/2014 13:39
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