My elderly mother lives alone and is increasingly frail. I live 4 hours away and work full time in a demanding job. DSis lives close by and works 2 days a week. I have arranged a gardener, cleaner, someone to help with personel care, and I visit when I can, usually every 2-3 weeks. As DSis lives much closer and only works 2 days a week, she is able to visit more frequently, and continually piles on the guilt that I am not visiting enough, she thinks I should visit weekly. I simply cannot do this due to work and other commitments. She is now not speaking to me as says I am not pulling my weight, which I find really sad as we have always got on very well. We will all be together over xmas, and I know there will be an atmosphere. I feel so angry that she is treating me this way. I want to make the first move to get things out in the open, but DH says it is up to her to make the first move as I have done nothing wrong, and it is her who should make the first move, as she has been incredibly nasty to me. It feels a bit like being back in the playground, I feel we should be acting like grownups and not like children!
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fell out with sister over caring for elderly mother
palamino · 18/12/2014 20:50
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