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Is my husband cheating?

(49 Posts)
MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:14:30

So, honest opinions please. My gut instinct says he is but want to get some feedback.

He was out last night, I get up with kids. Text on phone he left downstairs. Him "where are you". Other person "I text you" then "sorry I couldn't get away x".

Looked at call log and he's rang this person 21 times straight after another (obv not replying).

I rang it from his phone, eventually answered but hung up straight away without saying a word.

He's still in bed. Waiting til he gets up to confront him. Scared as if my feelings are right, the minute I confront him there is no going back. If I dont I can pretend I haven't seen this.

Help x

listed Sun 14-Dec-14 07:18:13

Who answered when you rang?

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:18:35

No one spoke.

listed Sun 14-Dec-14 07:21:52

Did they get chance to, or did you put the phone down straight away?

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:22:57

No I waited coz I wanted to hear the sound of the voice e.g. Male or female.

LineRunner Sun 14-Dec-14 07:22:57

What name are they saved under?

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:23:05


LineRunner Sun 14-Dec-14 07:24:16

Was he meant to be out with a friend? Called Stu?

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:24:51

I just can't see a man ringing another man that many times. It's just not like him. Also why would the other person not be able to get away. Sounds sneaky by both parties.
A big part of me wants to ignore it but how can I when he will be out loads over Xmas. I will send myself crazy.

listed Sun 14-Dec-14 07:25:03

Why don't you text the number instead and see if anyone replies?

Something innocuous like why weren't you there last night?

MuttonCadet Sun 14-Dec-14 07:25:07

It certainly looks bad, is the number saved in his phone?

listed Sun 14-Dec-14 07:26:01

Either way I would hide the phone somewhere.

If he goes crazy looking for it when he wakes up that might tell you something.

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:26:19

Yeah but they were all out as couples, I had to work so couldn't go. I checked contacts and there are texts from the stu in question under a full name and different number so seems suspicious.

LineRunner Sun 14-Dec-14 07:29:00

Can you check with one of the other couples who was there? Was he there?

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 07:30:52

I know he would be there. The times he rang this number was 30 mins before he got home. E.g. Left friends to "come home", tried the number, no reply, got food and came home.

FolkGirl Sun 14-Dec-14 07:31:04

Doesn't sound good to me either.

But then I'm cynical.

But then that's because I've realised over the past couple of years that cheating is very, very common...

listed Sun 14-Dec-14 07:35:55

Why not send a text and see if "stu" replies?

Something like "sorry you couldn't get away last night, what are you up to today?"

LineRunner Sun 14-Dec-14 07:35:56

So it's not Stu's real number, he was on his own when ringing it repeatedly, and you rang it and the person didn't speak.

Yeah, odd. Very odd.

SquidgyMummy Sun 14-Dec-14 08:03:15

Sounds like "Stu" is not keen on seeing your husband not that's any consolation

FunkyBoldRibena Sun 14-Dec-14 08:45:03

Stu is obviously a false's how I caught cheating in my relationship.

simontowers2 Sun 14-Dec-14 08:54:54

I'd say 90 per cent likely of cheating. If you want proof though, dont confront him when he gets up. He will easily lie his way out of it. Just text the number.

HappenstanceMarmite Sun 14-Dec-14 08:55:19

I'm afraid to say I think your suspicions are well founded.

rjay123 Sun 14-Dec-14 09:05:47

Give the number a call whilst withholding yours (dial 141 before the number, if off a landline).

Are you on facebook? Type "Stu"'s number into the search box, and it will come up with the real owner, if they have a facebook profile linked to their mobile.

JimmyChoosChimichanga Sun 14-Dec-14 09:11:51

When you confront. Make like you know a lot more than you do in order to draw him out and get the truth.

MumL11 Sun 14-Dec-14 09:20:26

Great advice. Typed it into Facebook and found out who it is!

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