Dear mn's
I need some help coping with my first Christmas since H left 3 months ago with OW.............
I'm still at the grieving/heartbroken stage and if it wasn't for my lovely children I probably wouldn't have bothered with Christmas at all this year! It's hard enough to get through each day at the moment without the added pressure of Christmas.
I am struggling so much trying to do the things on my own that we used to always do together. Bought the Christmas tree today (usually his job with one of the kids!) and DS scrambled into the loft to get the decs down! managed to decorate the tree with the DC but now they've gone out/ off to their rooms I'm sat here looking at 'our' 24 years of shared Christmas memories and all I want to do is howl! I keep imagining him 'doing' Christmas with 'her' and wonder if he's thinking of us at all?
Christmas day is going to be a real trial! I actually have to work, so the kids are going to their grandparents for Christmas lunch, but it broke my heart when my youngest (15) asked if she could go visit friends in the afternoon and I said no Christmas day was a family day and she said 'what family?'
Despite posting my own Christmas cards early with a letter explaining what had happened, I have still received loads of cards to both of us! Each one is like a knife through my heart!
So what coping processes have others used to get through this time?
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Tips on coping with first christmas
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stickydate65 · 13/12/2014 22:11
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