I am feeling very low and would welcome your thoughts. H got angry with me this morning, I did some work a while ago and found out yesterday the invoice hasn't been paid and I need to re-submit it. H said I should have checked before now and started shouting at me in front of DCs, saying I don't care, I don't take responsibility, everything left to him etc. I didn't answer except to ask him to stop as he was yelling on and on with DCs there.
I feel like I am always on edge waiting for the next outburst. I work but most housework and planning for DCs is down to me, so I am upset at him saying I don't do anything. He is quite right that I should have chased the money sooner. But I just feel I can't keep on top of everything and feel really alone. It was extra work anyway on top of my job.
I asked H if he thought it was ok to shout at me in front of DCs. Older DC was saying "Stop it daddy" and "poor mummy". I worry what example this sets for adult relationships - my parents were like this and see how I have ended up. H said it was my fault for not caring about our finances and not caring about our family. I then said "Fuck off" in response to that (I had sent DCs upstairs by then) and he went to work slamming the door. I was left trying not to cry and taking upset DCs to school.
I know he has a point about the money but his behaviour isn't ok, right? I really want to make a stand and say how unacceptable it is but I am rubbish at assertiveness. Please help me get a backbone and deal with this right? Thank you.
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