At a Christmas party, sat you down and said you looked fantastic, and you always looked fantastic because you dress in a way that's true to yourself, and then had a long drunken heart to heart about various things, then vaguely suggested lunch, then kissed your hand before wandering off, would you think:
- very drunk, forget it
- eccentric kindred spirit
- making a move
Hetero male colleague, I should add. And at pains to state he is in happy relationship. Knows I am married. We don't know each other that well but have worked together more closely recently and have had some random conversations about beliefs opinions etc in recent weeks. I think there's always been a sense that we're both a bit different in a similar way. But nothing more than that.
I genuinely don't know how to read it. I've had very nice friendships in the past with guys who everyone else dismissed as creepy or coming on to them, and where there has been nothing of the sort.
I'm lacking in faith in my judgment because I recently discovered that everyone thinks another male colleague who I thought I had a nice friendship with fancies me.
Part of me thinks I must just be really naive, part of me feels sad that it all has to be seen to boil down to sexual attraction.