My father died a few weeks back. Like a lot of fathers, he was in some ways great and in some basic ways not-so-great. My sister was asked to write his eulogy, and she asked whether we wanted to mention anything in particular. One of the things I wanted to mention was his skill with words and tunes, evidenced by the songs he made up about us all when we were very little.
This is when my sister got a bit upset and said she'd prefer not to mention that, because she found "her" song particularly hurtful. My song was OK -- it talked about how I had a bit of a lisp because I was wearing braces on my teeth at the time. It was short and sung to a cheerful, upbeat tune. My sister may have a point about her song: it was about how she was slow and lazy and didn't pull her weight around the house. It went on for longer than mine.
In a family of five children, the songs would be sung by everyone during long car trips for light entertainment. Everyone had their song and each song was sung in turn, sometimes lots of times until the subject of the song stopped crying (I think the idea was to toughen us up).
My sister was six at the time and we probably stopped doing the songs when she was about ten. Is she being over-sensitive about this after all these years?
I'm just curious because it caused quite a bit of tension at a very difficult time for us all.
Thanks for your comments, I feel I am probably in too deep to judge this.
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mynewusername · 19/11/2014 15:35
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