I’ve been in a relationship with a great woman since January. She has a 13 year old (an only child) who lives 50% with her and with the daughter’s dad, so they each have her every second week plus 50% of school holidays. I have 2 daughters, 15 and 17, who live with me every second weekend plus some holidays and I otherwise see a lot of. My girlfriend and I have arranged our lives so that every second weekend we do not have our children, and can spend time together.
Our two families have had a couple of shared holidays, and got on fine. My girlfriends’s daughter has stayed overnight at my house with my daughters and their two girl cousins. My two and me are due to stay overnight at my girlfriend’s place with her daughter there, on Saturday night.
My girlfriend’s daughter is often extremely rude to both parents, both privately and in public. She has apparently always been like it, so it is more than just teenagerish. My girls are saints by comparison. My girlfriend says her daughter is very like her ex partner, so it may be inherited/learned behaviour.
The real problem is that the daughter is extremely possessive of her mother, and forbids me to stay overnight at her mother’s house when she is there. The first time I did she threatened to sleep in the garden shed! Another occasion she went missing for hours. Another occasion when she learned that I was going to stay over she phoned her dad who picked her up and took her back to his. More recently I stayed one night midweek and took a roast chicken etc over because her mother had worked late, and the daughter refused to eat the meal and had her mother cook pasta which she ate in the same room but separately from us.
Tonight I was due to stay at my girlfriend’s but she said it would be too confrontational, so I’m home alone.
I am in a relationship where I can only see my girlfriend every second week! I try to be pragmatic about it but it’s getting me down. Help!
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