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'You're a boring old woman who only wants to watch shit tv'

(50 Posts)
ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:24:30

'if I want to go to the pub
and have a few drinks then I will '

<<tosser>>

Sorry.

Having a vent.

3pigsinblanketsandasausagerole Sat 01-Nov-14 21:25:32

All at it tonight aren't they

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:27:37

Not sure - are they ? thlhmm

peasandlove Sat 01-Nov-14 21:28:42

God this place kicks off on the weekend doesn't it.

lemisscared Sat 01-Nov-14 21:31:09

Tell him not to choke on his nobby's nuts

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:31:50

Well I have only been using this site for around 5 years. Never asked for anything. Big mistake .

Thanks vipers.

3pigsinblanketsandasausagerole Sat 01-Nov-14 21:32:04

Couple of threads now about twatty blokes

MrsCosmopilite Sat 01-Nov-14 21:36:40

Maybe you could add 'obnoxious' or 'scatterbrained' (take your pick) to his description by either purposely or accidentally locking him out?

Catnuzzle Sat 01-Nov-14 21:36:41

Chilly, think you've read it wrong. Previous posters just acknowledging others gave also posted about twatty blokes tonight.

And yours sounds like a right one as well. Enjoy your shitty telly, at least it's not rude to you. wine

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 01-Nov-14 21:37:45

Vent away. He sounds thoroughly unpleasant and insulting. Is this his normal attitude towards you ? What do you get out of the relationship exactly?

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:39:57

Sorry I have not complained about my 'twat' in the past. Believe me I have wanted to. Didn't have the courage to deal with the (understandable) LTB responses. I don't have friends in RL , (pub buddies) am estranged from my family members and DH's family are mostly toxic.

scarletforya Sat 01-Nov-14 21:44:29

Well talk away here Op, let it all out. He is indeed a twat.

(I'm a boring old telly watching woman)

26Point2Miles Sat 01-Nov-14 21:46:28

What do you usually do on a Saturday night then?

Pasithea Sat 01-Nov-14 21:47:44

My hubby is the boring crap telly watching woman

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:48:45

Cogigito yes unfortunately this is not unusual behaviour from him. What do I get from the relationship? Truthfully I am scared to strike out on my own. We are not well off - but I gave up my job several years ago to be a SAHM. DC are now in college so are not dependent small children, but dependent all the same. I am pathetic.

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 21:56:29

26point2miles every weekend is pretty much the same. He claims to be skint (therefore he and I can't go out ) then he gets a text and suddenly can afford to go out (by himself)

Tonight I was invited (rare) but I had 20 minutes notice and needed to bathe/wash hair/do make up. I am 48 ffs and with the best will in the world could not achieve that!

AngryBeaver Sat 01-Nov-14 21:57:49

You're not pathetic at all chilly!
It's a bloody scary prospect to go it alone. You have to reach the point where your self respect/worth will not accept it anymore I think.

Like, a 'Fuck you mate, I'm worth so much more than this' type of moment?

Why don't you -quietly- start looking at options?

Jobs, rentals etc

See what your options are.

The kids will cope. They want their mum to happy, don't they?

Look, if my husband said this to me, I'd think he was a twat. In a bad mood. And I would make him sleep on the couch and grovel for the foreseeable.
BUT, if I look at my relationship I'm happy, generally.
I have 4 kids under 8 and my husband is really supportive and a great dad.

So that's the difference. People say stupid things in the heat of the moment, and I often roll my eyes at all the LTB's.

You have to look at everything as a while and decide if you're generally happy to stay, or if you're life would improve greatly by taking the leap.

But you're NOT pathetic. Xx

AngryBeaver Sat 01-Nov-14 21:57:50

You're not pathetic at all chilly!
It's a bloody scary prospect to go it alone. You have to reach the point where your self respect/worth will not accept it anymore I think.

Like, a 'Fuck you mate, I'm worth so much more than this' type of moment?

Why don't you -quietly- start looking at options?

Jobs, rentals etc

See what your options are.

The kids will cope. They want their mum to happy, don't they?

Look, if my husband said this to me, I'd think he was a twat. In a bad mood. And I would make him sleep on the couch and grovel for the foreseeable.
BUT, if I look at my relationship I'm happy, generally.
I have 4 kids under 8 and my husband is really supportive and a great dad.

So that's the difference. People say stupid things in the heat of the moment, and I often roll my eyes at all the LTB's.

You have to look at everything as a while and decide if you're generally happy to stay, or if you're life would improve greatly by taking the leap.

But you're NOT pathetic. Xx

Diagonally Sat 01-Nov-14 21:57:55

One of the great things about going it alone is no-one criticizes your tv choices smile

Who needs a grumpy twat in their life, really, OP? Do you?

26Point2Miles Sat 01-Nov-14 22:07:00

Wait til next Saturday night comes around and ask him what exiting plans he has..... Or if he's just going to sit in front of the tv!

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 22:10:21

Angrybeaver thank you.

Diagonally grin

Bugger it. I don't want to open Pandora's Box. I don't want to drip feed. You would all tell me to LTB with good reason. All the troll threads of late, I probably would not be believed regardless .

SpanielofDoom Sat 01-Nov-14 22:18:29

I was in a 20 year marriage and didn't want to open Pandora's Box either. I knew what was inside it and I was terrified of the reality of how bad my marriage was.

When I eventually did open it, I found the courage to leave.

Open yours soon, Chilly.

Zazzles007 Sat 01-Nov-14 22:20:55

Why didn't this twat wait for you to get ready??? hmm He is indeed deserving of the twat award. <presents twat award to Chilly's partner>

FluffyMcnuffy Sat 01-Nov-14 22:26:08

Well OP I am in my 20s and I am definitely a boring old telly watching woman grin.

ChillySpooker Sat 01-Nov-14 22:31:04

SpanielofDoom 17 years here and counting. I don't have the courage at the moment. Sorry. Wish I hadn't started this thread. I never reach out to anyone - ever. I am blaming the wine

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