I did the other day. Why do I feel so guilty?
Dp is lovely, kind, a great dad, is not abusive and we are pleasant to one another. But our sex life is dead and we have no spark. I'm not sure we ever did.
I got pregnant due to a contraceptive failure about 3 months after we got together. I think I was so grateful he wanted to stick by me after I decided to keep the baby that I tried really hard to make it work. We have now been together nearly 5 years and dd is nearly 4.
I have felt this way for a while and tried to suppress my feelings. I even ended up with depression and in counselling it all came out that my guilt at not feeling the way I should for him was a big factor.
I have got to the stage now where all my friends are getting married and settling down with people they genuinely love and I feel sad we don't have that. I don't want to wake up in 10 years time and realise that life has passed me by. There has never been talk of marriage, even when I said I was sad that dd has a different surname to me. When we had the talk the other night, he admitted that he never asked me as deep down he knew I didn't want to which was kind of true. Since the talk he has shut down and not talking to me at all - apart from a barbed comment last night that I seem "the happiest I have ever been" because I came along with his mym's and made small talk etc and was singing songs with dd in the car. What else was I supposed to do? I had asked him several times if he was ok and tried to engage him in talking things through.
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Anyone ever ended a relationship with their child's father just because they don't love him?
GuiltyAsAGirlCanBe · 26/09/2014 10:10
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