I have been with my DH for thirteen years and in the last six our sex life has become progressively more shit. I have been upfront yet sensitive about this but he ignores me.
We average sex once every three months. The last time involved no foreplay and he just pointed at his cock and said come on then. Because we do it so little I went with it and it was the usual boring experience. If I try and change positions or suggest something new he sort of faffs, panics and the loses his erection.
It is so tedious. It's always me having to get on top, he then loses his erection or nothing happens, I climb off and he wanks himself off furiously with a death grip.
When I have attempted to introduce toys he visibly cringes and does that insecure-I'm so not into this- which is a complete turn off.
He is always wanting cuddles , dozens of times a day,but hasn't kissed me in over a month or made any sexual approaches to me.
He doesn't like giving women oral sex and on the two occasions he has he has gagged. I have NEVER had this response before and I am very clean so it's not a hygiene thing but utterly mortifying. He has suggested doing it since but funny enough I haven't felt comfortable.
I don't really know what I am asking but I am feeling more and more angry towards him as time goes by. I miss having great sex.
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Really rubbish sex life. Advice needed.
Onaccountofnothing · 27/07/2014 18:44
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