a 'perfect' home, housekeeping wise?
I am 23 a moved into my first home with my DP in Feb this year. I have been out of the house since 18 but always lived in shared houses (as did DP), where you would almost never invite friends/family home but if they did and thought the kitchen/bathroom were rank, you can just blame it on other housemates.
Now we live on our own I feel the pressure of keeping everything perfect almost unbearable at times. My granny used to say to me the way to know if your house is clean is through embarrassment, if someone were to come in your house right now, is there something to be embarrassed about? But I would be 'embarrassed' if the bed wasn't perfectly made or if there was plates on the draining board.
DP is also fastidiously tidy and I feel under pressure to do the majority of the cleaning as I work significantly less hours than him (I do between 45-50 whilst he does around 70). He does more than his share of tidying on his days off but is just not around enough to do any 'deep cleaning.'
The other day at work I said to a colleague that I would be glad to finish soon as I hadn't made the bed this morning and DP wouldn't be happy if he came home to that. She sounded shocked and said 'why, will he beat you?!' in a jokey way but is it ok/normal to feel so worried about keeping things clean?
I ask DP to give me at least 24hr notice of bringing anyone around so I can ensure it the house looks nice. As a kid my parents were very serious about keeping an ordered house to the point of not sitting on the cushions of the couches so they didn't sag, washing the pots from making your dinner BEFORE sitting down to eat it etc. However I am a naturally messy person and when I lived alone my room was always a mess but now I am with DP who hates mess I am always clearing up after my self of fear of annoying him.
When I have my days off all my plans are around cleaning the house, doing the laundry, doing shopping. Is this simply the sharp shock of being an adult in the big bad world or am I worrying too much?
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