Bank holiday again! I hate them means too much time with my naggi g hubby at home it's his birthday today and the kids have already driven him to distraction with their questions and excitement so he has gone out hopefully all day. He enjoys walking so will prob go for a really long peacef walk. He loves his own company and really doesn't like people so bring part of a family unit isn't for him. He blames the kids behaviour as they constantly rabbit on and unfortunately fight and argue. They don't really watch tv or DVDs and he gets cross because they are always in the vicinity he wZnts them in their room or watching tv!! He won't leave as be is exceptionally house proud and he loves the house and says it is my problem because I need to teach the kids to be quiet!! His solution is he just goes out at weekends and sees the kids first thing in the morning and will come back for an hour before bed time. He has a section of elder relatives that he cares for and he is fantastic with people over 70 but not with his own family he can't cope with!! Been like this for years so where do I go now!!
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Gosh this reminds me of being a child
. My dad hated mess and was not a cuddly father (still had issues although better with grandchildren).
He worked shifts and we loved him being out but if he was in bed we has to have our toys downstairs and be quiet otherwise he would be so moody. Always had to tiptoe around him. Had to make sure we tidied up 100%, toys, clothes, food etc. It's obviously helped me in the way I am a clean freak now 
but was not enjoyable as a child and I sometimes feel I can be similar with my children and have to take a deep breath and walk away when there's mess and not get cross with them as would hate for them to feel like I did.
We had to eat our dinner in certain ways. Elbows off the table, being fork to mouth not head down to fork, cut food up not properly etc etc. Somedays he was fine but he was a bit of a bully. Used to push it too far with play fighting etc. End up Chinese burning us or pretending to strangle us but actually hurting us
. Would say it was fun and he was being gentle.
Honestly was not a nice experience growing il with someone who was grumpy and didn't like kids being around. "Children should be seen and not heard" was what he used to say 
I would speak to your DH and tell him how it will effect their relationship with him. I'm still not close to my dad but have my own family now and they are my priority. I tolerate my dad but don't see him too much. Find it's easier that way!
Since when does not liking the sound of noisy, bickering and fighting children become child abuse? 
How old are the children OP? Can you arrange a day out so that they are expending some energy outside? Obviously children shouldn't be banished to their rooms all the time, but expecting them to go and amuse themselves (preferably quietly) in their rooms for a while, depending on age, doesn't seem unreasonable to me.
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