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Link to DM 'advice' on fixing relationships after affairs...so bad it's funny!

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summermovedon · 10/04/2014 07:06

advice on how to get your relationship back after affairs

You can tell it was written by a man, how could the hurt party come out of this with any dignity left??! You need to change, don't stop him seeing the other woman, let them move in together, improve your sexual techniques... this is so absolutely awful it is hilariously funny.

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Eastpoint · 10/04/2014 07:14

The comments think it's rubbish too. It would horrific to have marriage counseling with someone like the author, completely soul destroying.

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higgle · 10/04/2014 07:37

Even better - the advice in one of the comments-

"Ladies, make sure your man never leaves the house hungry or horny and you will have no problems ever. That's all you have to do. Funny how so many women consider this an outrageous proposition."

must remember that.

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OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 10/04/2014 07:43

"Want to win back a cheating husband?"

Um, no.

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Thouneedsbedamned · 10/04/2014 08:02

"women have been given more permission to enjoy sex, rather than simply doing it for men"

Grin

Blood and sand.

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ormirian · 10/04/2014 08:02

Win?? [Hmm]

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CailinDana · 10/04/2014 08:02

God what a disgusting article.

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aurynne · 10/04/2014 08:04

The only useful bit of information in this article is the "Six types of women who could kill your marriage" figure. As long as you replace the caption with "the six types of excuses cheaters use", it's spot on.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 10/04/2014 08:07

I had to check the date to make sure it wasn't an April Fool piece. Disturbingly, it isn't... Hmm

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MrsBungle · 10/04/2014 08:07

Bloody hell! Well, that puts me off using a relationship counsellor should we ever need one!

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Dillydollydaydream · 10/04/2014 08:09

Awful!

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CailinDana · 10/04/2014 08:13

The section on sex basically says "yes I know men can't rape their wives anymore but remember if you do try to say no to sex your husband will probably look for another available hole cheat." Anyone who thinks feminism isn't necessary should read this. The misogyny isn't even hidden.

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Missesbumble · 10/04/2014 08:30

Holy f##k what planet is that person on? Any relation to katie Hopkins, she's another one that comes out with a pile of stinking shite too ... Ho hum!

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CbeebiesIsAboutToPop · 10/04/2014 08:33

Shock this guy is a marriage councillor?!? People actually pay him to sprout this rubbish?

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Missesbumble · 10/04/2014 08:37

Awaiting the next installment of "how to win back your women" lmao Grin

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CailinDana · 10/04/2014 08:45

Yes I wonder what the advice would be to men with cheating wives? Not the same I'm guessing.

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Missesbumble · 10/04/2014 08:51

cailindana no I'm sure that would be our fault also! we are undoubtedly the route of all problems lol

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littlemrschatterbox · 10/04/2014 09:01

What a crock of shite.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 10/04/2014 09:02

There was one part I agreed with. (Don't faint folks...)

"Walking on eggshells just makes your husband irritated. When you back down, he loses all respect"

However, I would extend the definition of 'backing down' to 'taking back a cheat'... Hmm Vicious circle.

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WillieWaggledagger · 10/04/2014 09:10

good grief. no wonder people come on here and say 'we tried relationship counselling but it didn't work' - they were probably unlucky enough to come across a 'counsellor' like this

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WillieWaggledagger · 10/04/2014 09:11

(of course there are other reasons why relationship counselling wouldn't work, aside from a useless counsellor)

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bumbleymummy · 10/04/2014 09:23

Shock where do they find these people?

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ScrambledSmegs · 10/04/2014 09:29

Oh, I bet he's cheated. Loads. What a bell-end.

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WiseKneeHair · 10/04/2014 09:35

Shock Anyone going to buy his book? Grin

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LyndaCartersBigPants · 10/04/2014 10:06

I love the bit where he advises that you meet the other woman, but remember "you're not two friends meeting up for coffee so put a time limit on it"!

I can imagine getting so carried away chinwagging about east Enders that you forget all about the fact that she's been shagging your husband.

What a dick.

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Nomama · 10/04/2014 10:12

Haven't read the book but I posted this on the other thread, mainly cos I think there is another perspective....

Erm... the title explains it. If you want to win back a husband that has cheated, is cheating, has acknowledged he is cheating, may have moved in with other woman... IF.

So the advice is, as far as I can see, really appropriate. Why beg him to come back, make a lot of changes in his behaviour, if you won't make any changes in yours? He won't want to come back to the same old resentful, not right home he has already left once. Everything has to be examined and changed, if you want to win him back

As for the have sex when you don't want to, that is a no brainer. You don't want to have sex because he has cheated, the OW will be all over him and in your head too. So the first time you really won't want to, but you will HAVE to if you want to win him back - if you don't / can't then the relationship is over and you don't want to win him back.

If you don't want to win him back then the whole piece is of no use to you! Most of the previous responses are from the (probably wholly sensible women) who would never want to win that kind of prize anyway. But some women do!

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