Feel free to search for my previous threads. I know it's not the done thing but I'm too exhausted to go through the whole scenario except for the updates, if that's okay.
I left it in January where I had turned down the London job to keep him and he had ended things with me anyway. Then his daughter moved in full time and he decided he could not afford to get a divorce as promised. He has been separated for nearly ten years and with me for four.
Now my sister has had a run of bad luck and is currently on my sofa trying to find a place.
DP has mainly been quite good about this bar a couple of slips.
Basically, something has happened now that is making me finally see that he is not the one for me.
Sister had my keys on Wednesday as she was going out and I would be in later than her. Band practice.
I went to meet a friend later but had to walk her home and make sure she was okay because her ex has been showing up wherever she is and there was dv in the relationship.
This meant that I couldn't get in before about half one as my friend was really scared and I didn't want to leave her. While this is going on, I am texting DP apologising for this and asking if he will be able to let me in. He had a really early start the next day and I was really apologetic.
All he had to do was get out of bed and press the button to open the outside door and leave the inner door open a crack. It takes me less than a minute to get there. He could have been snuggled back in before I got to the top of the stairs. I could have then cuddled in as this usually helps him get back to sleep.
Instead, he sent me "fuck you" via text and got really angry. He eventually let me in but then shouted at me.
When I had the nerve to point out that, actually, he goes out and gets drunk all the time, expecting me to let him in at 4am when I have a seven thirty start, he went mad and pushed me against the wall and screamed that he was going to kill me.
Now I accept that he was exhausted, but the whole process didn't need to take longer than thirty seconds and the situation that kept me out late was not of my doing. My keys were with my sister and my friend needed me. I should have stayed with her really. But I really wanted my own bed and DP.
After all of this, HE is annoyed with ME and hasn't spoken to me for two days.
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He hurt me. And now I hate him
grapelovingweirdo · 07/03/2014 08:32
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